Unorganized families live in brokenness.
A healthy society reserves anger for "special occasions". Today taking offense has become reflex. It is ignorant arrogance. If someone corrects their mistaken belief, then its is a mistake. If not corrected it's a lie. Blissful ignorance of the multiple loud voices of deceit.
The loud voices of Trevor's family out-shouted Trevor's pleas. Trevor, 12 years old, entered the hospital, suicidal. His father abandoned him. He declared he hates his mother, who thinks Trevor is avoiding school and wants to spend all his time in his room watching television or playing games. Tension and irritability surface when we discuss homework and group compliance. Anger quickly gets the better of Trevor.
Trevor attempted suicide using his shoelaces. He has been in a foster home for seven weeks. At his new school he refused to budge from his seat, listen, or follow instructions. He became verbally aggressive. His foster father was called to de-escalate the situation, but Trevor refused to go home with his foster-father.
When the police came, Trevor became more aggressive trying to shove the police. At that point he was brought to ER under restraints and given a summons for disorderly conduct. His report showed he had been beaten by his biological mother with a board that had nails protruding ever so slightly so that Trevor could sense the pain, suffering and struggle of his African-American ancestors.
Trying to correct a mistaken belief failed for Trevor. Many children live the "Goldilocks" principle, too much too little for balancing their lives to their benefit. Trevor lived life with love that never cohered. Arrogant anger prevailed. Love that doesn't cohere makes it difficult to live a constructive life - never just right.
Many children would say, "World, you have forgotten us. We are an economic risk. We are embarrassing to handle. We make you uneasy. America does not lack education, or skill, but you have suppressed an underlying callous attitude toward us. Blissful ignorance. One day we will flood society. Will we, then, rain on your parade?
Kaye is a teacher and author of multiple works including Valerie Valentine Visits Vincent Vampire